the search for the misunderstood

Everyone in one moment of their life at a party, a familiar meeting, being with friends, or on a dinner, have felt that are left over. Maybe you think that you are weird or like some people said today “loser” because of that feeling, let me tell you its completely normal.

A few days ago I kept thinking I had some problem or something like that, when I was with my friends I always felt that I was left over and I keep myself apart listening music, watching the floor and thinking and how I feel in that moment, and I always get at the conclusion that I was a boring person and because of that people were with me for pity or convenience. Nobody ever tell me otherwise so I kept with that ideas.

In my birthday parties, look at that, in my birthday, all the years, I finished on a corner reading, watching a movie on the living room or playing some game alone until it was time for cake and locked myself back in my world. I was on my cellphone when I look a notice that said loneliness, was completely normal on people of all the ages, children, teenagers, adults and seniors. But it said it causes a lot of sickness or contributing factors to loneliness that include situational variables, such as physical isolation, moving to a new location, and divorce. The death of someone significant in a person's life can also lead to feelings of loneliness. It can be a symptom of a psychological disorder such as depression.

Loneliness can also be attributed to internal factors such as low self-esteem. People who lack confidence in themselves often believe that they are unworthy of the attention or regard of other people. This can lead to isolation and chronic loneliness.

Loneliness has a wide range of negative effects on both physical and mental health, including

·                               Depression and suicide

·                                Cardiovascular disease and stroke

·                                Increased stress levels

·                                Decreased memory and learning

·                                Antisocial behavior

·                                Poor decision-making

·                                Alcoholism and drug abuse

·                                The progression of Alzheimer's disease

·                                Altered brain function

    

                               

These are not the only areas in which loneliness takes its toll.

Lonely adults get less exercise than those who are not lonely. Their diet is higher in fat, their sleep is less efficient, and they report more daytime fatigue. Loneliness also disrupts the regulation of cellular processes deep within the body, predisposing us to premature aging.

Within the body, predisposing us to premature aging.

Researchers have found that low levels of loneliness are associated with marriage, higher incomes, and higher educational status. High levels of loneliness are associated with physical health symptoms, living alone, small social networks, and low-quality social relationships.

It said that having close friends can help combat loneliness

Researchers also suggest that loneliness is becoming more common in the United States. Since 1985, the number of people in the U.S. with no close friends has tripled. The rise of the internet and ironically, social media, are partially to blame.

Experts believe that it is not the quantity of social interaction that combats loneliness, but it's the quality. Having just three or four close friends is enough to ward off loneliness and reduce the negative health consequences associated with this state of mind.

One study suggests that loneliness may actually be contagious. In a ten-year study, researchers examined how loneliness spreads in social networks. The results indicated that people close to someone experiencing loneliness were 52% more likely to become lonely as well.

Tips to Prevent and Overcome Loneliness

Loneliness can be overcome. It does require a conscious effort on your part to make a change. Making a change, in the long run, can make you happier, healthier, and enable you to impact others around you in a positive way.

Here are some ways to prevent loneliness:

Recognize that loneliness is a sign that something needs to change.

Understand the effects that loneliness has on your life, both physically and mentally.

Consider doing community service or another activity that you enjoy. These situations present great opportunities to meet people and cultivate new friendships and social interactions.

Focus on developing quality relationships with people who share similar attitudes, interests, and values with you.

Expect the best. Lonely people often expect rejection, so instead focus on positive thoughts and attitudes in your social relationships.

Types of Loneliness

If you’re feeling lonely, chances are you are actually not alone in that feeling. In fact, loneliness is so common that researchers have classified the feeling into three main categories:

Situational Loneliness— maybe you started a new school, moved away from your friends and family, or just have a new schedule that is making it hard for you to connect with the people and places that used to fill your life. Situational loneliness occurs when there are changes in your life that cause you to feel isolated. Thankfully, this loneliness often gets better with time as you adapt to your new normal.

Developmental Loneliness— it feels like everyone else is moving and shaking without you: acing tests, getting promotions, or starting families. Sometimes, this feeling of being behind—of feeling like everyone is moving on and excelling without you—can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness.

Internal Loneliness— you’re out with your friends hitting up your favorite pizza joint. Instead of feeling surrounded by the people you love, you can’t shake the feeling of being totally and utterly alone. Sometimes, people feel lonely when they are actually hardly alone at all. Internal loneliness comes from a perception of being alone in any and every situation.

Researchers claim that the U.S. is experiencing a "loneliness epidemic." In a 2018 survey, conducted by the Kaiser Family Foundation (KFF), experts discovered that about 22% of Americans say they constantly feel alone. Such prolonged feelings of isolation can come with serious health problems, both mental and physical. Feelings of isolation are often associated with depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts. Doctors have also found that people who are lonely tend to have increased blood pressure, weaker immune systems, and more inflammation throughout the body.