the search for the misunderstood

Everyone in one moment of their life at a party, a familiar meeting, being with friends, or on a dinner, have felt that are left over. Maybe you think that you are weird or like some people said today “loser” because of that feeling, let me tell you its completely normal.

A few days ago I kept thinking I had some problem or something like that, when I was with my friends I always felt that I was left over and I keep myself apart listening music, watching the floor and thinking and how I feel in that moment, and I always get at the conclusion that I was a boring person and because of that people were with me for pity or convenience. Nobody ever tell me otherwise so I kept with that ideas.

In my birthday parties, look at that, in my birthday, all the years, I finished on a corner reading, watching a movie on the living room or playing some game alone until it was time for cake and locked myself back in my world. I was on my cellphone when I look a notice that said loneliness, was completely normal on people of all the ages, children, teenagers, adults and seniors. But it said it causes a lot of sickness or contributing factors to loneliness that include situational variables, such as physical isolation, moving to a new location, and divorce. The death of someone significant in a person's life can also lead to feelings of loneliness. It can be a symptom of a psychological disorder such as depression.

Loneliness can also be attributed to internal factors such as low self-esteem. People who lack confidence in themselves often believe that they are unworthy of the attention or regard of other people. This can lead to isolation and chronic loneliness.

Loneliness has a wide range of negative effects on both physical and mental health, including

·                               Depression and suicide

·                                Cardiovascular disease and stroke

·                                Increased stress levels

·                                Decreased memory and learning

·                                Antisocial behavior

·                                Poor decision-making

·                                Alcoholism and drug abuse

·                                The progression of Alzheimer's disease

·                                Altered brain function

    

                               

These are not the only areas in which loneliness takes its toll.

Lonely adults get less exercise than those who are not lonely. Their diet is higher in fat, their sleep is less efficient, and they report more daytime fatigue. Loneliness also disrupts the regulation of cellular processes deep within the body, predisposing us to premature aging.

Within the body, predisposing us to premature aging.

Researchers have found that low levels of loneliness are associated with marriage, higher incomes, and higher educational status. High levels of loneliness are associated with physical health symptoms, living alone, small social networks, and low-quality social relationships.

It said that having close friends can help combat loneliness

Researchers also suggest that loneliness is becoming more common in the United States. Since 1985, the number of people in the U.S. with no close friends has tripled. The rise of the internet and ironically, social media, are partially to blame.

Experts believe that it is not the quantity of social interaction that combats loneliness, but it's the quality. Having just three or four close friends is enough to ward off loneliness and reduce the negative health consequences associated with this state of mind.

One study suggests that loneliness may actually be contagious. In a ten-year study, researchers examined how loneliness spreads in social networks. The results indicated that people close to someone experiencing loneliness were 52% more likely to become lonely as well.

Tips to Prevent and Overcome Loneliness

Loneliness can be overcome. It does require a conscious effort on your part to make a change. Making a change, in the long run, can make you happier, healthier, and enable you to impact others around you in a positive way.

Here are some ways to prevent loneliness:

Recognize that loneliness is a sign that something needs to change.

Understand the effects that loneliness has on your life, both physically and mentally.

Consider doing community service or another activity that you enjoy. These situations present great opportunities to meet people and cultivate new friendships and social interactions.

Focus on developing quality relationships with people who share similar attitudes, interests, and values with you.

Expect the best. Lonely people often expect rejection, so instead focus on positive thoughts and attitudes in your social relationships.

Types of Loneliness

If you’re feeling lonely, chances are you are actually not alone in that feeling. In fact, loneliness is so common that researchers have classified the feeling into three main categories:

Situational Loneliness— maybe you started a new school, moved away from your friends and family, or just have a new schedule that is making it hard for you to connect with the people and places that used to fill your life. Situational loneliness occurs when there are changes in your life that cause you to feel isolated. Thankfully, this loneliness often gets better with time as you adapt to your new normal.

Developmental Loneliness— it feels like everyone else is moving and shaking without you: acing tests, getting promotions, or starting families. Sometimes, this feeling of being behind—of feeling like everyone is moving on and excelling without you—can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness.

Internal Loneliness— you’re out with your friends hitting up your favorite pizza joint. Instead of feeling surrounded by the people you love, you can’t shake the feeling of being totally and utterly alone. Sometimes, people feel lonely when they are actually hardly alone at all. Internal loneliness comes from a perception of being alone in any and every situation.

Researchers claim that the U.S. is experiencing a "loneliness epidemic." In a 2018 survey, conducted by the Kaiser Family Foundation (KFF), experts discovered that about 22% of Americans say they constantly feel alone. Such prolonged feelings of isolation can come with serious health problems, both mental and physical. Feelings of isolation are often associated with depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts. Doctors have also found that people who are lonely tend to have increased blood pressure, weaker immune systems, and more inflammation throughout the body.

The sacriest places on the world

THE WORLD IS COVERED IN haunts, frights and macabre memorials.

From lavish decor made of human bone to eerie dolls, abandoned towns and death-defying drops, the world offers a mix of natural and supposedly paranormal frights at a number of goose bump-inducing sites scattered across the globe.

Here's a look at 13 of some of the creepiest places around the world:

Aokigahara – Yamanashi Prefecture, Japan

Aokigahara is also known as "Suicide Forest" or the "Sea of Trees." It sits near Japan's Mount Fuji in Fuji-Hakone-Izu National Park in Japan, and is known for its dense woods. The forest was the subject of a 2016 film, and Vice reports that after a popular novel set in the forest was published, it became the scene of suicides at a rate of an estimated 50 to 100 people a year.

    

Chernobyl – Chernobyl, Ukraine

Chernobyl is a closed but not fully decommissioned nuclear power station in the restricted Chernobyl Exclusion Zone north of Kiev, Ukraine. The facility was evacuated on April 27, 1986 after a catastrophic nuclear accident, still regarded as the most devastating nuclear accident in history. Abandoned structures reveal the frantic pace of abandoning the city of nearby Pripyat.

The Stanley Hotel – Colorado, United States

Americans are likely familiar with The Stanley Hotel, a 142-room Colonial Revival hotel in Estes Park, Colorado, and made famous as the inspiration for horror novelist Stephen King's Overlook Hotel in "The Shining." The Stanley has developed its own claims of paranormal activity overtime.

Capuchin Catacombs – Palermo, Sicily, Italy

The Capuchin Catacombs of Palermo are burial crypts in Palermo, Sicily, in southern Italy. They draw visitors as a somewhat gruesome tourist attraction. The catacombs act as a cemetery to an estimated 8,000 mummies that line the walls. Some of the human remains are now skeletal, while the catacombs also hold well-preserved bodies. The last body was interred at the site in 1920.

Bran Castle – Bran, Romania

Bran Castle, also known as "Dracula's Castle," is a national monument and landmark in Romania. Many associate vampires with Transylvania, the region in central Romania, in large part because of Bram Stoker's "Dracula." The House of Draculesti ruled Transylvania hundreds of years ago and one ruler, Vlad III, is said to have been so barbaric that he earned the name "Vlad the Impaler."

The North Yungas Road – Bolivia

A fear of heights can go a long way – sometimes into a 2,000-foot abyss. This is especially true along the North Yungas Road, which leads from La Paz to Coroico in the Yungas Region of Bolivia. The two-way road travels between that abyss and solid rock. Its 12-foot-wide path has earned it the nickname of "Death Road."

Village of Nagoro – Nagoro, Japan

A dwindling aging population and low youth-retention rate in Nagoro, Japan, has left behind a shrinking village. Artist Ayano Tsukimi reportedly moved back to her hometown to find the lessened local population. In response, she created life-size dolls to place around the village to give it a sense of life. Atlas Obscura reports there are now at least 350 toy citizens inhabiting the village.

The Door to Hell – Derweze, Turkmenistan

The so-called "Door to Hell" or "Gate to Hell," is a natural gas crater in Derweze, Turkmenistan. The crater is the result of a natural gas field that collapsed into an underground cavern in 1971. Geologists reportedly set it on fire to curb the spread of methane gas, but it continues to burn.

Hanging Coffins of Sagada – Sagada, Philippines

The Hanging Coffins of Sagada are just a few of the cliff-side burials around the world. The tombs in the Philippines reportedly follow an ancient funeral custom that entombs the deceased in coffins attached to rock faces or within caves in the face of cliffs. Ancient literature from the Tang Dynasty suggests the coffins' placements corresponded with status, while others say the placements prevented animals from reaching the bodies and did not take up value farm space for burials, according to CNN. Philippines Lifestyle reports that the Sagada people have practiced such burials for more than 2,000 years, and that some of the coffins are "well over a century old."

Beelitz-Heilstätten Hospital – Beelitz, Germany

Once a sanatorium to reportedly house people with fatal tuberculosis, the site in Germany was converted into a military hospital complex used during World War I. Adolf Hitler is said to have been treated at the site after he was wounded in the war. The primarily abandoned complex still features crumbling surgical and psychiatry wards. A small portion of the complex is reportedly still used for neurological rehabilitation and Parkinson's research.